I came across a very interesting website the other day and want to share some of it with you. Love and Logic. What does that mean? The following statements are taken directly from their website.
The “Love” in Love and Logic means that we love our kids so much that we are willing to set and enforce limits. This “Love” also means that we do so with sincere compassion and empathy.
The “Logic” in Love and Logic happens when we allow children to make decisions, affordable mistakes and experience the natural or logical consequences. When we balance this with sincere empathy, they develop the following logic:
The quality of my life depends on the quality of my choices.
With the loving yet powerful tools of Love and Logic, we can help our children learn to make good choices and experience happy lives while maintaining their love and respect.
Doesn't this sound wonderful? When I was a young mom with four young children, there were many voices telling me how to raise my children. And, when I did not measure up to the standards, I felt guilty, ashamed, and that I had failed. I sometimes look back on decisions that I made and wonder if I made the right choice? If only....I had said no. If only.....I had said yes. If only.
Thinking of the "if onlys' only makes me crazy. I know I cannot change anything I did in the past.
But, here is something that makes sense. This is something that can be used to help parents teach, discipline, and help their children become the people they are meant to be.
" The Love and Logic approach to parenting is built around the science of crafting caring and respectful relationships. An authentic, loving connection between parents and their children is the root of a healthy, thriving relationship built on trust and understanding."
The Love and Logic site has parenting workshops, and offers tools to help you build those relationships with your children. Check them out here: Love and Logic
Loving your kids means so much more than warm, fuzzy feelings.