Many years ago I remember being called "Linda Pinda" and being threatened at recess when I was just 8 years old. I remember having a ball thrown at my head with the intention to hurt. That was 49 years ago and it still is clear in my mind.
The old saying, "Sticks and Stones may break your bones, but names will never hurt you" is an untrue statement in my opinion. Whoever came up with that saying didn't quite understand the impact verbal abuse and bullying has on all humans regardless of age.
Apparently, though, bullying in schools has reached an epidemic.“Over 13 million American kids will be bullied this year, making it the most common form of violence experience by young people in the nation.” (Hirsch, 2012 BULLY (Motion Picture, Weinstein Company)
That statement just hurts my heart. I no longer have children in the school system, and thankfully, they were not affected by bullying during their short stay in public schools.
“Bullying remains one of the largest problems in schools, with the percentage of students reportedly bullied at least once per week steadily increasing since 1999.” That quote is from the FBI. And, cyberbullying has become more rampant and has been linked to the suicides of many children. The Internet has been used to unleash a meanness is humans that has never been seen before.
The statistics are incredible, and the children are being hurt. What can a parent do?
1. Talk to your children...don't expect them to solve this on their own.
2. Have them explain everything and keep a log of all the issues.
3. Contact the school and find out what the policy is.
4. Talk to administrators and bring up issues at school board meetings.
5. Keep your children home if necessary and find alternative help if no one listens or will do anything about the situation.
6. Keep talking to the teachers and administrators until they actually do something about it.
7. If nothing is resolved, I would personally, contact law enforcement and/or take my child elsewhere.
No one needs to be subjected to another persons' bullying and abuse. If I remember incidences that occurred 49 years ago, how do you think someone who is repeatedly bullied or abused will be 49 years down the road?